Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder

British singer Adele before and after losing 100 pounds. I’ve always thought her beautiful and she has a voice that is beyond compare, regardless of her weight.

She’s being shamed for losing so much weight. She was mocked previously for being too fat….and at such a young age.

Think about that for a minute.

This body imagery obsession, especially amongst younger individuals (most loudly from females) is getting to the point of ridiculous and really quite aggressive.

Morbidly obese people are shrieking to be accepted just as they are and couldn’t care less about the majority of average people. Fashion magazines are catering to “plus size” (boy, I hate that term) runway models and photo spreads.

The MOST insane comments I’ve seen in response to Adele’s birthday pictures are those who are claiming Adele shouldn’t be complimented on her weight loss because it sends the message to overweight people (those who haven’t put Adele’s level of effort into shaping up) that their bodies or they as people aren’t valuable or acceptable.

It’s always about them. I can’t even get my head around that level of lunacy.

There are inifinite body compositions, medical conditions, even cultural norms that dictate body shape. In large part, being overweight can be attributed to just plain laziness.

I’m lazy – I’ll be the first to admit it. I hate to exercise; I’ve never thought I’ve had a great metabolism. But I wear a size 8-10 American sizes. I’m no rail – I’m about medium, but little attention is given to the middle-of-the-road American woman.

It’s said that the “average” American woman is between size 16 and 18.

That’s hefty in proportion, should it be someone my height and build, for example.

It’s unhealthy. Obese people get defensive if they perceive being fat-shamed, but they don’t realize the greater impact and potentially detrimental results of their behavior.

It is entirely possible that this all stems from self-loathing and it’s easier to blame someone else for what they could perceive as their own shortcomings, low self-esteem, or general lack of self-respect than to actually take responsibility and do something about it for themselves.

And it seems more important to selfish younger generations to be right than to be healthy.

As technology-bound generations’ waistlines and demands for acceptance continue to increase, so will health insurance premiums and hospital costs…if not now, they will eventually and for everyone, healthy or not.

Case in point, I have noticed recently that some restaurants have begun adding surcharges to their customers’ bills, money they claim they’re using to pay for their employees’ insurance plans.

That’s unfortunate, but they ARE the business owner, are they not? It is their responsibility to provide fringe benefits to their own people, not my duty. If they as an owner find it a “hardship” to provide their employees with a privilege – not a right – then they shouldn’t go into business.

Those are establishments I will not patronize. A service industry provides services, not demand it from customers already paying for said services and then trying to overcharge them without their knowledge.

I know there are some that applaud that practice – I find it appalling and entitled.

But I digress.

If an individual is being fat-shamed, whatever that happens to look like, perhaps it is just someone trying to help them improve because they foresee bigger struggles coming with time and age.

I’ve always been pretty much the same size throughout my life with the occasional, “Getting a little thick around the middle, aren’t you?” from a mother who’s been morbidly obese her entire life.

So much so that her insurance company dumped her because her blood pressure is off the charts. She even suffered a hairline fracture in her femur caused by years of excessive weight being carried on it.

Those are just mild examples of the pitfalls of carrying too much weight.

For myself, I know that if I put on just an additional 20 pounds, I am miserable. My joints ache, I sleep poorly, and I despise myself. How someone must feel carrying five times that is something I can’t imagine. Why do they do it? How can this pride in being so slovenly be so justified?

What about extra fares an obese person is expected to pay when flying because they take up so much extra seat space on an airplane? Plus-size clothing almost always costs more than regular size clothing because of the required extra material.

Worse yet, an easy fix that so many morbidly obese people are racing to is gastric bypass procedures or gastric banding.

These are actually some of the most dangerous surgical procedures undertaken. Plus, once completed, the patient is restricted to such stringent eating and activity guidelines that much enjoyment of everyday life is stripped completely away.

And when all is said and done, nearly 85% of these patients end up back at their previous weight or more because they couldn’t discipline themselves to do what they should have been doing all along: controlling food portions and taking care of themselves.

Are these the battles worth fighting just so you can prove to the world you have your right to be fat?

It’s ironic to think that the same individuals so proud to be so obese are those that serve as primary targets of beauty and plastic surgery industries.

Proponents of over weight demand to be accepted for JUST WHO THEY ARE, yet fall so easily prey to multibillion-dollar bloodsuckers and charlatans that give them nothing but false hope, false lashes, false tits, and very temporary esteem while sucking them dry of their last pennies to do so.

And all the while these individuals are buying their imagined, shallow, insubstantial, and plastic beauty and then unwittingly destroying it all with their foul language and abhorrant treatment of others around them.

At the end of the day, the most important attributes that actually, truly make them who they are – depth, intelligence, respect for others and themselves, and personality – are being pushed aside just so they can have the right to be just as ugly on the outside.

It doesn’t make sense to me, either…

It is of little consequence to me a person’s size, shape, ethnicity, gender, clothing, socioeconomic standing, religious belief, or profession.

If you treat me, others, and yourself well, that is truly most important overall.

A nightly walk in the fresh air does wonders for body and mind, best consistently practiced.